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04 April 2014 @ 10:53 pm
Been a while, but this seemed the best place for today's rant: 5S and the tyranny of stuff

This might be more of an American problem than an ABDL problem, but it seems that a lot of people are suffering from the tyranny of stuff. This is especially true in the Bay Area, where space is expensive. As a result, nothing is free. If you rent, you'll need to get a place big enough for you AND your stuff. If you move, you'll need to relocate your stuff. If you own a house, you'll be surprised at how quickly stuff will fill it until it feels like a cramped apartment – with a mortgage. While the stuff might have been bought, the space it occupies has a recurring price. Even if it was free, we still need to pay for the space. So effectively, everything we have is leased.

Probably the most widely adopted practice of lean manufacturing is 5S. 5S details how to maintain an effective workspace or homeplace. It can be quite an undertaking the first few times around, so it might be best to start small, such as one closet.


The first step of 5S, in English, is “sort”: Take everything that isn't worth keeping around, and get rid of it. Obviously, the things you use regularly should be kept. Those childhood treasures and truly irreplaceable momentos should also be kept. Emergency preparations and anything else you wouldn't be able to buy as needed should also be kept for the same reason. For everything else, you might be better off selling it or giving it away.

This decision should be based on the value of the object to you. Especially for collectibles, what collectors on Ebay might be willing to pay for something is too often used to justify keeping it. This should have the opposite effect. If they are willing to buy it for more than it is worth to you, sell. Even if they are willing to buy for less, still consider it: The break-even point would be the value to you, minus storage.

Another common mistake is to use the full replacement cost in this evaluation. If there is a 1 in 5 chance you'll need something, and that something would cost $100, then keeping it around is only worth $20. Keep in mind that you'd only be considering things you don't use regularly and that could be replaced if you did need them.

A final mistake is the hoarding pitfall; the unconscious drive that surrounding yourself with things makes you valuable. Surrounding yourself with valuable things might indirectly make you valuable – you'd be surprised. However, the hoarder's cacoon of trash will also be reflected – in emotionally crippling clutter and in time wasted digging through the trash to get what you need.

A low-effort way to sort the wardrobe is to put attach a piece of paper to a hanger and put it on one end of the rod. Write the date on the paper. Then when hanging up the laundry, only put the clean clothes on that end, with the hanger in the middle. This time next year, the clothes you haven't worn for over a year will still be on the other side of the coat hanger, ready to be considered for a trip to Goodwill.

You'd be surprised how much space this sorting frees up – and what else sorting frees up. Since you won't need to dig through so much to find what you need, and then move things out of the way to use it, time will be freed up as well. The less cluttered homeplace might also give more energy.

Set in order.

Only as a second step should you set things in order. That is, to consolidate similar items so they'll be easier to find and closer to where they are needed. In this step, you might find that you've now got extras that were hidden by all the stuff. In truth, you had them all along, but couldn't find them in all the clutter.

Don't skip to this step. You'll waste a lot of time organizing things you don't need.


Conventional cleaning. Skip to this step and you'll spend time cleaning needless clutter, and it may end up looking messy anyway.


Sit back for a bit to savor how much more space you have now, and enjoy the benefits of having less clutter in your life. Then move on to another closet or bookshelf, the rest of the room, and eventually, the rest of the house. Repeat as needed.


For Toyota, this involved transmitting best practices through all its plants. For us, the process is a bit less formal.
21 August 2010 @ 04:27 am
Fifteen years ago Tuesday, Understanding Infantilism.org went live. Back then, it was on a different domain and was called "BitterGrey's Den." A lot else has changed. Back then...

...the Internet was an arcane channel for geeks, MTV played music videos, and AB/DLs grew up in isolation, longingly gazing into Sears catalogs. Now over the internet, we exchange AB/DL music videos and countless other things.

...Attends was the groundbreaking adult disposable brief. Now Attends are hard to find, and diapers made for AB/DLs are becoming more common.

...Wikipedia didn't exist. In the last five years, I've gone from no involvement, to tireless dedication, to monitoring vandals and roving gangs of sexologists from a distance.

...I was cautious and guarded, expecting attacks from organized religion. Since then, the reverends and pastors I've discussed it with have been open-minded and supportive. The most trouble I've had was actually from another AB/DL, over a wikipedia article. She was so determined to be the victim that she was willing to abuse anyone necessary to make it so. I have faith that people have enough sense to see through her untruths, ask the critical questions, or ignore her.

...we took for granted that Disney would continue to make "Disney movies," that Mr. Rogers would always be our neighbor, and that Russia was our biggest concern.

...I couldn't have foreseen the depth and breadth of insight that community surveys are now offering.

Now, what might the next fifteen years have in store?
10 July 2010 @ 10:07 pm
I'm starting to experiment with lullabies as a way to fall asleep more consistently, hoping for some pleasant tune that might help me sleep, well, like a baby.

One CD that I've been pleased with is "DogEase" by Dr. Lee Bartel. Initially I bought it for the cute cover. It is marketed to pet owners as a way to help their dogs relax. It seems to help me sleep sometimes - yes, I'm a babyfur. Dr. Bartel also has a CD for cats, but I haven't tried it.

I'm planing on trying some more mainstream lullaby CDs, but might steer towards Celtic and African. Chronological infants wouldn't be following the lyrics of the lullaby. Maybe this can be simulated by listening to non-English lullabies.

04 July 2009 @ 09:32 am
Well, Google has finally adjusted their heuristics to not favor huge sites so heavily. Previously, the leading result for most searches was Wikipedia, weighing in at around five million pages. Now the results will be more equitable.

An additional benefit is that a particular thirteen-hundred page website is dropping in the rankings. This website, previously about borderline personality disorder, includes a few pages on infantilism, a few hundred on Sailor Moon, over a hundred on narcissism, and one page spreading false information about me. Back in 2006, it's author tried to rewrite the Wikipedia article to match what she had. We debated, she didn't get her way, and has been seeking to out me since then. It is good to see that Google is giving more weight to what others think of her, and less to website size.

Now if only I could figure out what is wrong with msn/live/bing...
26 January 2009 @ 05:50 am
Well, FC has wrapped up for another year. It was good overall, with parties Friday and Saturday night. A lot of babyfurs to meet, but there wasn't an opportunity to really connect with anyone. Mainly my fault, I guess. At least I was able to get caught up with a few friends.

The Friday babyfur breakfast that I was planning didn't happen. The location fell though days before FC, and there wasn't time at FC to find another location for Friday morning. (That is, the first day of the con.) Tamino had planed another breakfast for Saturday morning, so it mostly worked out. (Tamino, by the way, invested a lot of time and energy into the PACS room and schedule. I think it turned out well.)

On the plus side, I finished some sketches during the event. On the downside, two of the three are so obscure as to require explanation. Maybe after inking they'll be more accessible. Unclear babyfur art easily becomes pointless. My previous round of pencils included one of a relaxing bunny that looked dead. Not sure if the two-thirds obscure ratio is an improvement over that.
02 August 2008 @ 02:12 am
It took a while, but I've finally got the results comparing male and female ABDLs together. Work on it started in October!


Here are some of the highlights:

*There are actually might be a lot of female ABDLs, relatively speaking. The sex ratio is about 10 men to 1 woman. This is more than expected for the paraphilias such as masochism and fetishism.

* Women with late onset ( 20 years or after ) were relatively more frequent than men with late onset, and less interested in diapers. In contrast, early onset cases were similar to males in their interest in diapers.

*Female ABDLs tended to prefer younger roles than men, and none reported a preference for the role of caregiver.
20 June 2007 @ 07:36 pm
Thought I'd take a break from the critical functions of website development, statistical analysis, and surveying to attend to a matter of high importance.

Kitty tea

A while back I tried to get over my cola habit by exploring tea and coffee. The efficient way to discover excellent teas starts with research. However, due to a shortage of caffeine in my system, I skipped the homework and selected a tea based on a more subjective criteria; the cutest box.

This lead to Celestial Seasoning's Decaf Honey Chamomile Green Tea. Adorable panda, but decaf. The next cutest was Madagascar Vanilla Red. It had a smiling lion on the box; 'Kitty tea.' Unfortunately, one cannot judge a tea by its cover. Kitty tea was cute but about average. Trader Joe's 'rhino tea' turned out to be more to my taste.

The search for the perfect tea continues, flawed methodology and all....
23 May 2007 @ 08:30 pm
Well, it has been only four months since my last post. Not that long.

I've been dealing with a few things, including the third set of survey results. There has been some housekeeping on Understanding.Infantilism.org, so hopefully the third report will fare better than the second, The Changing ABDL Community . It graphed the impact that the sexual revolution and the internet revolution have had on the childhoods of AB/DLs. However, it ended up going straight to the supplimental index, AKA "Google Hell."

By they way, for everyone who has helped keep the rest of understanting.infantilism.org form slipping into the underindex... Thanks for linking!

31 January 2007 @ 07:11 pm
The AB, DL, Etc. Survey (still at http://understanding.infantilism.org/survey1_abdls_etc.php ) has passed the 1000 response mark. Responses are still being gathered.

Currently, I'm working on the second report on the results. It will be about how AB/DLs have been affected by the events of the past half-century.
20 January 2007 @ 08:00 am
It is hard to believe that it has been a year. At FC 2006, while gathering feedback on a handout that I was developing, I found out that the wikipedia article on infantilism had been taken down. It was then just a stub and a link to a powerpoint file that associated infantilism with pedophilia. The conversion from handout to new & informed wikipedia article framework took place in the lobby at FC over a few mornings. Two rounds of edit wars followed.

Many are probably looking back on a 2006 that flew by, and wonder where it went. As for me, I know.